When you’ve decided to divorce, one of the first things that come to mind isn’t always about the emotional freedom you’ll achieve from the separation – it’s the expensive cost and emotional toll the proceedings are going to have on your life. That’s because for the thousands of couples who have gone through the same situation, traditional court cases have led them down this path – feeling angry, hurt and financially strapped when everything is over.
Collaborative Divorce Works Toward a Common Goal
Collaborative divorce works to separate the issues at hand between two parties, especially when both people want to simply move on with their lives – instead of trying to place blame and fight about past issues. Unlike traditional divorce proceedings, collaborative divorce has all parties working on the same side—towards a mutual goal. Instead of focusing on the fight between both of you, both individuals agree to set aside their differences and work together on resolving any issues.
Seeking Resolution Instead of Placing Blame
By working together (each with a respective legal representative) both parties decide to make decisions based on what’s best for the two of them – instead of pushing into a hurtful game of “attack the other party”. By trying to resolve problems, both parties are able to move past the past issues and stick with the common goal of moving on with a new beginning.
Legal Counsel Work For a Common Goal
Having hired legal counsel members who are committed to helping both parties come up with a resolution works to keep past issues from resurfacing; this helps keep the attention on the items and issues at hand, instead of working against each other in an attempt of playing a right versus wrong mentality. By working together, both legal counsel parties attempt to keep the conversations progressing; instead of hashing out unkind, hurtful or angry comments in a legal battle.
Removing the Fighting to Resolve the Issues
Keeping these issues to a minimum, collaborative divorce works to remove the negativity from the divorce, helping both parties achieve what they want from the separation collectively – which can leave both parties feeling “whole” or happy with the terms. Having mutually acceptable terms means there will be less negativity when the divorce is finalized – giving both parties the feeling of closure at the end, instead of hurt and resentment.