Divorce can be all out war. Between fighting over property division, assets and debts, spouses can often become enemy combatants when their marriages end. Unfortunately, children often become casualties of this war. The devastation to children in the aftermath of a divorce can be avoided. There are steps you can take to protect your kids during divorce.
Vow Not to Fight
Although it is easier said than done, some splitting spouses make it a point to not turn their divorce into a raging war. These spouses decide that they will dissolve their union as peacefully as possible, sparing the kids the drama of being caught in the middle of a nasty divorce.
Mediation and collaborative divorce are two alternatives to the traditional, adversarial process that often accompanies a split. In mediation, the parties are encouraged to talk out their issues and come to mutual agreement in a non-adversarial environment.
There are no attorneys present, and the mediator’s goal is to help the couple find a solution that works for all involved. This makes the process go more smoothly and saves the financial and emotional devastation of a lengthy court battle.
How Collaborative Divorce Benefits Children
Engaging in civil discourse with your former spouse is key to protecting your kids during divorce. In adversarial litigation, your spouse is an enemy that you are motivated to fight. The goal is a “win” at any costs, even if it means depriving the child of their other parent.
With cooperative divorce strategies, you can resolve your conflict quickly and start to work together as co-parents. This will allow the children to enjoy having both parents who work together to secure their best interests.
Don’t turn your split into a war. The most vulnerable casualties will be your children. With collaborative divorce, you can work together as partners instead of as enemies.