Suspecting your spouse of cheating can be devastating. The betrayal can cause deep emotional scars that are difficult to heal. Don’t be blindsided by a cheating partner. By spotting the red flags that your spouse may be cheating, you can prepare yourself to deal with the situation.
Cheating is challenging. The cheating spouse has to essentially live two lives, and eventually she will slip up and reveal her deception. The cheater has to juggle dates with the spouse and the boyfriend, remember two sets of birthdays and keep the two from finding out about each other. There are common ways that most spouses slip up.
-Phone secrecy
If his phone rings and he immediately runs outside to take the call, it may be a sign of cheating. He won’t answer calls in your presence but will text. He may change his phone’s lock code or hide it from you.
-Spouse has less money than usual
Your spouse may be buying gifts or taking his mistress out on dates. This means he has less money than usual. Check bank statements for any suspicious purchases.
-Spouse picks fights
There may be two reasons for this. First, the spouse may be simply looking for an excuse to get out of the house. She may pick a fight, then storm out to “cool off.” This is simply a ruse to see the other person.
The spouse may also be picking fights because they are annoyed at you. This one is hardest to accept. They may be annoyed that you are standing in the way of their new relationship. This usually happens when they start to fall in love with the other person.
-You suspect cheating
If the little voice in your head is telling you that something is not right with your spouse, you are probably right. Don’t ignore your intuition that something is fishy.
Finding out your spouse is being unfaithful is never easy. Spot the red flags and get the confirmation you need.